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The Pressure of Kids Birthdays

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

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Hi Reader,

Today is my twins' 7th birthday!

We celebrated them this weekend with a birthday party and are celebrating their actual birthday today after school.

While I know I should be all happy for them, and I am overall, I also find myself feeling so much pressure to make everything perfect all day for them and ignore the lingering birth trauma that I relive for up to a week before, after, and during their birthday.

Regardless of how I feel, because I know this isn't about me, it's about them, I'm putting on a happy face and celebrating them.

Do you feel pressure to make everything perfect for your kids' birthdays too?

Do you also struggle with birth trauma years later?

Hit reply, I'd love to hear from you.

My birth trauma started with my oldest and got much worse with my twins since all 3 of us nearly died. I have been in therapy and on medication to try and 'fix' or 'lessen' the birth trauma but I have to say, it's still with me. I'm not sure when it'll subside.

I don't say this to be a downer, and I realize some may unsubscribe since I've got a partially sad email here, but I pride myself in being truthful and telling it The Way it Really Is, which isn't all puppies and rainbows, you know?

Big hugs to you all if you also have birth trauma that follows you year to year.

Birth Trauma

Finding it hard to celebrate birthdays with a traumatic birth story.

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Nicole Prom, Ed.S.

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Nicole Prom, Ed.S.

I help moms through sharing honest personal experiences, practical tips, and helpful printables through my blog, The Way it Really Is.com. I’m a stay-at-home homeschool mom of 6-year-old identical twin boys and a 8-year-old boy. My mission in life is to help others, as I did in my former career as a school psychologist, and now do with my blog. Join me and see what The Way it Really Is, is all about!

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