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Our Anniversary + Relationship Tips

Published 7 days ago • 2 min read

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Hi Reader,

How are you doing?

My husband and I just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary over the weekend. We kept things low key but had a nice time.

It's nice that our kids are the ages that they can be downstairs watching a football game on TV while we spend a couple hours chatting and working on a craft project together he came up with. We even dressed up, which doesn't happen often!

Of course, after a couple hours the kids started fighting and we had to break them up BUT it was still a nice time.

The following day, we all spent the day at our favorite beach which is a man-made swim pond about 20 minutes away. It was a great weekend!

My husband and I on our anniversary weekend
Flowers, battery operated candles, and nummy food!
My husband working on the craft project he came up with for us with my project in near the camera.
Us at the beach with the kids on our anniversary.

Relationship Tips

As you know from my last email, I'm not a perfect parent and that's ok. I'm also not a perfect wife. BUT I feel that I have quite the happy marriage, which I feel very fortunate about.

Even though we have a busy household with 3 active boys, we make sure to make time for each other at least a few nights a week. This has really helped our marriage stay strong.

It helps that our kids are in their rooms by 7:30pm so we can spend time together without the kids. It's good for them to have some alone time to decompress and often they read for a while, especially our 9 year old, and then go to sleep.

We weren't always this way, it wasn't until I was battling postpartum depression after having our twins and going to weekly therapy that we came up with a schedule for the evenings after the kids went to bed.

This may seem odd but if you don't schedule time out to do things such as spending time together, working on the family budget, being intimate, it's just not likely to happen. We became closer again after we put this schedule in place. It's also important to have time apart to work on our own hobbies.

We've also found, that at least for us, we don't need to have fancy dates with babysitters, it's just not our thing - for now at least.

Sound like something you'd like to know more about? I wrote a blog post about it that you can check out below.

Healthy Relationship Tips

Scheduling Time Together and Apart as a couple.

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Have a great week!!

Nicole Prom, Ed.S.

Founder/Blogger at TheWayitReallyIs.com​

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Nicole Prom, Ed.S.

I help moms through sharing honest personal experiences, practical tips, and helpful printables through my blog, The Way it Really Is.com. I’m a stay-at-home homeschool mom of 6-year-old identical twin boys and a 8-year-old boy. My mission in life is to help others, as I did in my former career as a school psychologist, and now do with my blog. Join me and see what The Way it Really Is, is all about!

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